Spending time alone builds confidence and identity as a Christian, helps overcome loneliness, and develops healthy self-esteem. We’ll cover seven things you can do alone and learn how spending time alone heals emotional wounds and trauma. You’ll also learn how trauma can cause you to feel uncomfortable in your skin and how to overcome it.

In this post, we’re diving into why it can feel uncomfortable to be alone, how solitude helps you heal, and seven powerful practices you can start using today to embrace your alone time.

Why Is It So Hard to Spend Time Alone?

Many people feel awkward or even anxious when they’re alone. If that’s you, you’re not the only one. But learning to enjoy solitude is one of the most powerful steps you can take in your healing journey—especially if you’re a believer seeking emotional restoration and renewed identity.

Spending time alone can bring up feelings of discomfort, sadness, or even fear. That’s often because there are unprocessed wounds or traumas beneath the surface. You may:

• Have abandonment issues
• Struggle with low self-esteem
• Feel uncomfortable facing your own thoughts
• Depend on others to feel happy or validated

Most of these challenges stem from past emotional wounds, often rooted in childhood. These experiences affect us well into adulthood, sometimes without us realizing it. But here’s the good news: solitude can actually help you face and heal these wounds—if you’re willing to do it.

How Time Alone Builds Confidence and Healing

Spending intentional time alone can:

• Increase self-awareness
• Help you face buried emotions
• Boost your confidence and self-esteem
• Strengthen your mental and spiritual health
• Improve your relationships (because you’ve built a better one with yourself!)

When you build a bond with yourself, that self-love and confidence naturally overflow into every other area of your life.

My Personal Story

Back in 2019, I started working from home and found myself feeling incredibly isolated. I didn’t have many close friends at the time, and most people were busy working during the week.

I would sit on my bedroom floor and pray, “God, why do I feel so alone?”
And slowly, I began to realize: this wasn’t punishment—it was preparation.

God was drawing me into a new season. A season where I could grow in self-awareness, heal emotional wounds, and build true confidence in private—so I could walk boldly in public.

Spending time alone became a regular practice that helped me boost my self-esteem, rebuild my confidence, and learn who I am. Now I look forward to my alone time. It’s helped me heal from emotional wounds, enjoy my presence and depend less on others to make me happy.

In my time alone, I get to write this blog post and create helpful content, which I’ve grown to love.

7 Ways to Start Enjoying Time Alone

Here are seven powerful ways to start building a healthy and healing practice of solitude:

1. Journal and Meditate

Journaling helps you clear mental clutter by getting your thoughts onto paper. It boosts self-awareness and helps you recognize patterns and emotions that need attention.

Meditation teaches you to be present. Just five to ten minutes a day of intentional stillness can calm your mind, help you reconnect with yourself, and reduce anxiety.

2. Put Your Phone Away

Unplugging from technology—even for 30 minutes a day—can transform your focus, discipline, and peace of mind.

Instead of scrolling, try:

• Cooking a meal
• Cleaning and organizing
• Meditating or journaling
• Taking a walk

Challenge: Spend 30–60 minutes each day without touching your phone.

3. Find an Activity You Enjoy

What brings you joy? Try new things until you discover what fills you with peace and purpose. Then make those activities a regular part of your life.

Some ideas to try:

• Reading
• Planning or vision boarding
• Walking in your neighborhood
• Exploring creative hobbies

4. Spend Time with God in Prayer

When you remove distractions, you create space to hear from God.

Prayer doesn’t always have to be words. Sometimes it’s simply sitting in silence, resting in His presence, or journaling your prayers.

God wants to connect with your heart—prayer is where your emotional healing and spiritual identity often begin.

5. Explore Who You Are (Without the Labels)

Most of us base our identity on material possessions. We base our value and worth on our job, financial status, relationships etc.

If everything you owned was stripped away—your job, phone, home—who are you really?

Solitude gives you space to answer deep questions:

• What do I like?
• What is my purpose?
• What do I believe I was created to do?

Start exploring your God-given identity. This is the path to true confidence and lasting self-worth.

6. Spend Time Alone in Nature

Nature is one of the greatest teachers. It reminds us of God’s provision, peace, and power.

Go for a walk. Sit by a tree. Listen to the birds. The more time you spend in nature, the more connected you’ll feel—to creation, to God, and to yourself.

7. Create Something

You were made to create. Whether it’s writing, painting, designing, planning, or building something. Creativity allows you to find joy in every step toward your dreams. When you engage your creative gifts—whether it’s writing, designing, planning, or dreaming—you bring light and meaning to each step you take. Instead of just focusing on the destination, creativity helps you find fulfillment, beauty, and purpose in the process of pursuing your God-given dreams.

Use your alone time to:

• Start a project
• Write a blog
• Create content
• Explore an idea or activity you’ve postponed for a while

Creating gives you purpose and fills your time with meaning and joy.

Final Thoughts

Spending time alone isn’t something to dread—it’s a gift. A powerful, healing practice that will help you:

• Heal emotional wounds
• Build unshakable confidence
• Reconnect with God and your true identity

So don’t run from solitude—embrace it. Your best self is waiting on the other side.

Want to explore this more?
I dive deep into emotional wounds and trauma in my book. When you grab your copy on Amazon, you’ll also get a FREE workbook to guide your journey and a complimentary coaching call with me to help you break through what’s been holding you back.

Get the book on Amazon here and take your first bold step toward healing and wholeness.

I’d love to help you create a more confident, faith-filled life.